We recently received a comment on one of our blogs. While crafting our response to William we felt posting it as its own blog entry may be helpful to others.
The original blog entry and Williams comment are below our response.
Here is our response to William;
Thank you for taking the time to comment William.
You are absolutely correct. People’s reactions can seem complicated.
But here’s the thing, what motivates these reactions are not complex at all. They are, for the most part, basic instinctive responses to our perceptions of things in our environment, sometimes internal and sometimes external. It may be helpful to think of these instinctive reactions as motivating thoughts.
Motivating thoughts are at the root of most, if not all, social complexity. This is because our instinctive responses filter up through our unique life experiences. While that complexity is certainly real, with easily learned tools and techniques we can diffuse escalations. And this is how we can help ourselves, together with others, arrive at much better outcomes.
Of course the details of how to apply this knowledge to your situation is as unique as you are. This is why we offer one-on-one learning combined with interactive experiential workshops. This is the best way to learn how to apply our results oriented techniques within the group you are interacting with.
We hope this has helped clarify what we mean by “Most problems are actually symptoms”.
The GraftOn Team
You can see the original blog entry and William’s comment by following this link.